We do hundreds of tasks a day to keep our household running. Still there are many days where we feel like we have achieved nothing, because no matter how many loads of laundry we do in a day, there will always be more. Gratification from tyding up behind our kids isn’t as valuable for our mood as achieving personal goals. In order to feel productive we also need to we fill our days with tasks that feed our mind and soul.
Declutter: Have less stuff
I’ve moved 6 times in my adult life and it is a tedious job to pack and unpack all our belongings. It confronted me with what I should keep or should get rid of. Life happens when you have kids, things pile up without noticing it and a cluttered house is a cluttered mind. Free yourself of the redundant objects. I’m not saying that you have to konmari your household, but having less stuff will definitely calm the mind. . There is less to pick up, dust off and is easier to organise. If you haven’t used it in a year, you probably won’t use it in the next year. Why keep a bicycle in the garage if you are not using it? Sell it or donate it so it can fulfill its purpose again. You might want to look into Marie Kondo’s method afterall if you want some pilar guidelines to follow.
Detox: Social Media
We go through our facebook and instagram feed and hop from board to board on pinterest. App programmers designed it in a way to keep us scrolling and scrolling. The longer we stay on the apps, the more advertising money they make. There is always another tweet or another picture to like. Clean up your friendslist and unfollow pages you are not interested in anymore. It’s okay to delete the “friends” who are not really your friends. There is no need to waste time on it. It certainly does not make us feel better.
Learn a New Skill
It’s the easiest way to notice progress in yourself, might it be photography, a new cuisine or a sport. Look for a tutor that can come around your place, pick up a book on the subject or sign up for a workshop. The learning process will stimulate your brain (bye bye mommy brain fog) and fuel your creativity. Best of all is earning a sense of accomplishment and pride. Let your partner hold down the fort and go for it.
Read a Book
It doesn’t matter if it is a fictional novel, autobiography or a self-help book. Book readers have a sharper mind and are better at critical thinking. Reading can inspire us and challenge our views. Pick up a book and read 20-30 min before going to sleep.
Face to face contact make us happier, healthier and it might help us live longer! Statements made in the book “The Village Effect” by Susan Pinker. Pinker is an award-winning author and psychologist. She explains how crucial in-the-flesh contact is in a world where much of our socializing has been replaced by online networks. There might be moments where it sounds exhausting to have to make yourself presentable and fight the kids in the car seats to go out and meet a friend, but it will lift you up. Or invite a family member over to your house. You could reorganise your closets together or cook a meal. Your “village” helps you to feel loved and appreciated.